controversial part of paper

November 8, 2011 at 3:37 pm | Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a comment

Human trafficking is illegal in many countries all over the world, including the United States and India.  Human trafficking itself is not much of a controversial topic because it is illegal, but people who are trafficked and the traffickers who purchase them obviously think that human trafficking is perfectly fine and think it should be legalized.  Others think that human trafficking is completely immoral and should continue to be illegal.  But there are some people who are somewhat in the middle of this controversial topic and think that some aspects of human trafficking should be legalized.

                Human trafficking is a broad topic that involves prostitution, slavery, child labor, and bonded labor.  Some people in both the United States and India think that some aspects of human trafficking should be legalized for many reasons.  The most widespread aspect of human trafficking that some people think should be legalized in the United States is prostitution (5 Major Human Trafficking Controversies: Prostitution).  Prostitution is defined as “the act or practice of engaging in sex acts for money” (Webster’s Dictionary: Prostitution).  People in the United States that think prostitution should be legalized are under the impression that it will decrease the crime rate in America and that it will create a safer environment for the women in prostitution.  In theory, when women in commercial sex are paying taxes, there is less opportunity for “pimps” and organized crime to exploit them.   Yet, this theory is proved to be wrong.  In Amsterdam, commercial sex and prostitution have been legal since 2002 and it has drawn many tourists to the city to take advantage of this legalization.  Recently, Amsterdam has begun to realize that making prostitution legal has actually increased crime rates of human trafficking and drug use and have begun to rethink this law (5 Major Human Trafficking Controversies: Prostitution).  In India, the actual act of prostitution (women over the age of 18) is legal, but brothel keeping, living off the earnings of a prostitute, soliciting or seducing for the purposes of prostitution, child prostitution and trafficking of women are all punishable offenses.  The government in India is realizing that legalizing prostitution is causing an increase in human trafficking in general, and that is why India has such a large problem with human trafficking.

New annotated bib.

November 3, 2011 at 2:46 pm | Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a comment

“Human Trafficking & Modern-day Slavery in India.” GVNET.COM — The Web Professionals. Web. 29 Oct. 2011. <http://gvnet.com/humantrafficking/India.htm&gt;.

  • The gvnet.com website starts off discussing how India is a source and destination for sex trafficking in men, women, and children and aspects of the Republic of India.
  • This introduction to this website expresses it’s concern for the people involved in trafficking in India and explains how men, women, and children are involved in human trafficking in India.
  •  I feel that this is a reliable source because it expresses an opinion about the subject and gives a list of other sources to look at that contains articles and other opinions on this topic.

Hughes, Donna M., Laura J. Sporcic, Nadine Z. Mendelsohn, and Vanessa Chirgwin. “India – Facts on Trafficking and Prostitution.” The University of Rhode Island. Web. 03 Nov. 2011. <http://www.uri.edu/artsci/wms/hughes/india.htm&gt;.

  • This educational website is more of an objective website that gives facts about human trafficking in India.  It discusses statistics about men, women and children and talks about the main locations where trafficking occurs. It also gives an overview of how the process of trafficking occurs and gives examples of some cases of trafficking in India.
  • I feel that this is a reliable source because it is from an educational institute (The University of Rhode Island) and provides some background/objective information about this topic
  • This source is useful because it gives some great statistics about the number of people involved in human trafficking and specifically where it takes place. It provides me with a wide range of statistics and information to use in my report

“Human Trafficking.” Wikipedia. 14 Oct. 2011. Web. 29 Oct. 2011. <http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Human_trafficking&gt;.

  • This website is discusses many aspects of human trafficking.  It gives an overview about the topic and differentiates between the kinds of human trafficking.  It also talks about the history of human trafficking (slavery), and talks about facts about human trafficking and sex exploitation.
  •  This website is an objective website that gives many facts and information on the topic, and does not express an opinion.  I feel that Wikipedia is very reliable because it is well-known and has a lot of credible information.  (Used for background information)
  • Wikipedia is useful because it gives a wide range of information and was a starting point for the background portion of my research paper.

“Human Trafficking and Slavery.” CQ Researcher 14.12 (2004): 273-96. Print. 29 Oct. 2011. <http://www.hrusa.org/workshops/trafficking/CQResearcher.pdf&gt;.

  • This article is from thecqresearcher.com, which is an online library where journals and articles can be found.  This article discusses the issues, background, and current situation of human trafficking.
  • This website states that they have received many awards for journalism excellence and has been around for a very long time – this seems like a very reliable source.  This article on human trafficking expresses some, but very little opinion on the topic, and is more of an objective website that provides facts and stories about the issues related to human trafficking. (Used for background information)
  • This article was useful because it provided a variety of information from the background section that matched up with my other background information received from other sources.  It made me think of the more current issues with human trafficking and gave great facts and opinions.

“Federal Human Trafficking Legislation.” Human Trafficking: Data Collection and Reporting Project. Northeastern University. Web. 29 Oct. 2011. <http://www.humantrafficking.neu.edu/responses/federal_human/&gt;.

  • This source talks about the prevention acts against human trafficking and what each act consists of.  It goes into detail about the prevention acts from 2000 until 2008 and shows the difference between each act.
  • This source is a reliable source because it is published through Northwestern University and is coming from an online resource center.  This article on the website gives factual information about the different laws against human trafficking in the US.
  • This webpage is useful because it provided me with the laws against human trafficking and provided me with the information that is in each law.
“History of Slavery.” HistoryWorld – History and Timelines. Web. 03 Nov. 2011. http://www.historyworld.net/wrldhis/PlainTextHistories.asp?historyid=ac41.
  • This website provides a summary of how slavery was in ancient civilization, discusses slavery throughout different ancient countries, and provides information about different slave trades throughout the world.  This source also gives a description of the abolitionist movements and the Emancipation Proclamation.
  • I feel that this source is reliable because it provides information about the history of almost every country in the world.  It was has online quizzes available for the information that they provide on the website.  This website provides factual information about slavery and does not express any opinions in their information.
  • This website was very helpful because it provided reassurance from the facts I had already obtained and also provided me with some new information that I may be able to use later on in my research paper.
“Data and Research on Human Trafficking: A Global Survey.” Childtrafficking.com. Ed. Frank Laczko and Elzbieta Gozdziak. 2005. Web. 03 Nov. 2011. http://www.childtrafficking.com/Docs/iom_2005_data_and_research_on_human_trafficking_11.pdf#page=100.
  • This article provides readers with research and data collection on human trafficking.  The section about the history of human trafficking and slavery describes the White Slavery Trade in detail and discusses the changes made to slavery and human trafficking laws in many different countries(started to incorporate children).  It also discusses the Thirteenth Amendment in the United States.
  • I feel that this is a reliable because it is a foundation that tries to prevent human trafficking, especially with children.  This child trafficking organization is based in Switzerland and they remove children that are being trafficked and place them in good homes.  This organizational website provides facts about many different aspects (history, etc.) and also states their opinion about human trafficking, especially with children.
  • This website was very useful because it provided more information on the history of human trafficking, most specifically about trafficking woman.  This source is provides facts about the history of human trafficking and does not express an opinion.
“The Immoral Traffick (Prevention) Act.” Helpline Law. Feb. 2008. Web. 6 Nov. 2011. <http://www.helplinelaw.com/docs/THE%20IMMORAL%20TRAFFIC%20(PREVENTION)%20ACT,%201956&gt;.
  • This article provides a detailed description of the Immoral Traffick (Prevention) Act in India.  It goes through each and every aspect of this act and describes what it means.  It also states punishments for disobeying  any aspect mentioned in this act.  This article also displays each section of this act and describes details of each section.
  • I feel that this article is pretty reliable because it comes from a source that has links to articles about all different types of laws in many different countries.  Helpline Law is a website that provides legal information for the use of lawyers and people of the public.
  • This website was very useful to because it provided information about the law against human trafficking in India.  This source provided facts about the Immoral Traffick (Prevention) Act in India and described this act in detail, which was very helpful to understand.
“Child Labour Policy in India.” Child Labor. 2008. Web. 06 Nov. 2011. <http://www.childlabor.in/child-labour-policy-in-india.htm&gt;
  • This website gave an overview of the Child Labor Act in India and also discussed this act in detail and described what each part of the act was and what it meant. It also described each article involved in the Child Labor Act and discussed what it meant.  This website also provided punishments for breaking this law.
  • I feel that this is source is pretty reliable because it is from a website called childlabor.com and this website provides all kinds of information about child labor.  It has information on what child labor is, how to stop it and talks about bonded labor and sweat shops in India. Childlabor.com is a website for an organization to try and prevent child labor in India.
  • This source was very useful because it described, in detail, the different aspects of the Child Labor Act and provided the punishments for disobeying this law.  It helped me understand how important the Child Labor Act in India is.
Kloer, Amanda. “5 Major Human Trafficking Controversies.” Change.org News. 30 Dec. 2008. Web. 10 Nov. 2011. <http://news.change.org/stories/5-major-human-trafficking-controversies>.
  • This online article discusses the five major controversies that involve human trafficking today.  It describes how human trafficking was and still is a major topic of many people including abolitionists.  It discusses the five major controversies within human trafficking and talks about them in detail.  The five major topics are prostitution, media attention, demand, the immigration issue, and money.
  • I think that this article online is a decent source for researching human trafficking.  Change.org is a website where writers can go and write articles about topics that are issues in today’s society and they express their opinions and try to find a solution to the problem.
  • This article was very useful because it gave me an insight into the major parts of human trafficking that are very controversial topics. It provided me with reasons, details, and opinions about each controversial topic and was a very useful source.
 

Start of background/other info/sources used today

November 1, 2011 at 2:39 pm | Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a comment

Human Trafficking in India

                I saw a video at my church one time about human trafficking in India.  There was a representative from a Christian program visiting my church that Sunday to try and raise money for their program, and that video showed pictures of young boys and girls who were sold into human trafficking in India.  After that video, my heart went out to all the people who were involved in human trafficking, not only in India, but all over the world.  I think that human trafficking is a world problem and more attention should be brought to the subject, but I decided to focus on human trafficking in India because that is where I hear about it the most.  While starting to think about this subject, I couldn’t stop myself from wondering how in the world this so called “business” ever got started.  Who would sell their child to someone they don’t know, just for some money?

                Slavery is as old as human civilization, and at one point, was perceived as a normal part of living.  Most of the world’s founding cultures (China, Egypt, India) practiced slavery and accepted is as a fact of life. 

 

Human trafficking has been identified as the fastest growing criminal industry in the world, and comes second to drug trafficking as the most profitable illegal industry in the world.  In 2004, the total annual revenue for trafficking was estimated to range from five to nine billion dollars.  In 2008, the United Nations estimated that about 2.5 million people from 127 different countries were being trafficked into 137 different countries around the world (Wikipedia: Human Trafficking).  Those are just some statistics for trafficking around the entire world.

Wikipedia states that, “Human trafficking is the illegal trade of human beings for the purposes of reproductive slavery, commercial sexual exploitation, forced labor, or a modern-day form of slavery”.  There are many different kinds of human trafficking, which include bonded labor, forced labor, child labor, and sex trafficking.  Bonded labor, or “debt bondage”, is when a person’s labor is demanded as a source of repayment for a loan or service from someone else.  This form of trafficking is the least known, but the most widely used for of trafficking.  Forced labor is when people are forced to work against their own will and their freedom is restricted and are considered to be “owned” by someone else.  Forced labor is more common among men because they are said to be able to perform a more variety of jobs that include, agricultural labor, sweatshop factory labor, janitorial labor, and begging……NOT FINISHED (Wikipedia)

 

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Human_trafficking

http://www.hrusa.org/workshops/trafficking/CQResearcher.pdf

Start of Annotated Bibliography-list of used sources

October 27, 2011 at 2:36 pm | Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a comment

http://gvnet.com/humantrafficking/India.htm – The gvnet.com website starts off discusses how India is a source and destination for sex trafficking in men, women, and children. This introduction to this website expresses it’s concern for the people involved in trafficking in India. I feel that this is a reliable source because it expresses an opinion about the subject and gives a list of other sources to look at other opinions on this topic.

http://www.uri.edu/artsci/wms/hughes/india.htm – This educational website is more of an objective website that gives facts about human trafficking in India.  It discusses statistics about men, women and children and talks about the main locations where trafficking occurs. It also gives an overview of how the process of trafficking occurs and gives examples of some cases of trafficking in India. I feel that this is a reliable source because it is from an educational institute and provides some background/objective information about this topic.

http://www.telegraphindia.com/1071016/asp/opinion/story_8436850.asp – This newspaper website discusses a story about how human trafficking in India is heartbreaking and describes the opinions of some people.  The story in this newspaper is called “Never too young to be sold”, and also discusses how young-aged children are being pushed into human trafficking at such a young age.  I feel this source is very reliable because it is an actual newspaper in India and is written by someone who is employed by this newspaper.

http://crs-blog.org/human-trafficking-in-india-one-womans-story/ – This religious website is called Catholic Relief Services and discusses human trafficking in India.  Catholic Relief Services is a website whose missions is to assist disadvantaged people over seas and working with them to teach them the sacredness of human life and dignity of humans.  This article about human trafficking discusses one womans story about her experience with human trafficking.  I feel that this is a somewhat reliable source because it describes one woman’s story with human trafficking and gives their opinion about he topic.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Human_trafficking – This website is discusses many aspects of human trafficking.  It gives an overview about the topic and differentiates between the kinds of human trafficking.  It also talks about the history of human trafficking (slavery), and talks about facts about human trafficking and sex exploitation.  This website is an objective website that gives many facts and information on the topic, and does not express an opinion.  I feel that Wikipedia is very reliable because it is well-known and has a lot of credible information.  (Used for background information)

http://www.hrusa.org/workshops/trafficking/CQResearcher.pdf –  This article is from thecqresearcher.com, which is a website where specific articles can be found and can be used in research.  This website states that they have recieved many awards for journalism excellence and has been around for a very long time – this seems like a very reliable source.  This article on human trafficking expresses some, but very little opinion on the topic, and is more of an objective website that provides facts and stories about the issues related to human trafficking. (Used for background information)

http://www.humantrafficking.neu.edu/responses/federal_human/

Problem/Solution paper topic-Human Trafficking in India

October 25, 2011 at 2:40 pm | Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a comment

http://gvnet.com/humantrafficking/India.htm

http://www.uri.edu/artsci/wms/hughes/india.htm

http://www.telegraphindia.com/1071016/asp/opinion/story_8436850.asp

http://crs-blog.org/human-trafficking-in-india-one-womans-story/

 

Problem ideas

October 20, 2011 at 6:11 pm | Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a comment

A couple problems that I thought of are as follows:

-Obesity among American’s

-Overpopulation in the world

-Pollution in the world

-Education systems

-Budget cuts and wasteful uses of money

-Media

Paper 2

October 13, 2011 at 8:12 pm | Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a comment

Does Age Matter in a Relationship?

 

 A couple of months ago, Hugh Hefner, 85, and his ex-finance Crystal Harris, 25, announced that their engagement was off (People Magazine: Hugh and Crystal Harris split).  Most of America probably could have predicted this.  A 25 year old wanting to marry an 85 year old?  How does that happen? When I saw that article in a People magazine, I couldn’t help but wonder if their 60 year difference in age had anything to do with the split.  Some people think that age really does matter in a relationship, and others beg to differ.  I know many couples who are eight or ten years apart, but how far is too far?      

  Before researching this topic, I automatically thought ‘No, age doesn’t matter in a relationship at all’.  My opinion was just from my personal experience because my boyfriend is 25 and I am 19 (turning 20 soon).  About a year and a half ago when we started dating, my parents were very uneasy about the idea of their youngest daughter dating someone who is five and a half years older, but as time went on, they got over it, and now they absolutely love him.  But what if he was 10 or 15 years older than I am? Would we get stares walking down the street together because people disagree with our relationship because of our age?  Some people really don’t care about the age difference in a relationship, but others think that age absolutely matters in a relationship.

J D Murrah, a marriage counselor and writer states his opinion on whether age matters in a relationship, “The question of whether or not age is a matter of concern in relationships has often been debated by family and friends. The simple answer to the question is ‘yes” (Hubpages: Does Age Matter in Relationships?).  Most commonly, you see men dating younger women, but in some situations, you see women dating older men.  Take Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher as an example.  Demi Moore is 15 years older than Ashton Kutcher and some may think she’s just being a ‘gold digger’ or that she is trying to find her ‘youthfulness’ in Ashton because he is so much younger than her (The Guardian:Relationships-Why the Age Difference Matters).  If you read People magazine, or any of the ‘Hollywood update’ magazines, you should know that recently Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher may be having some marital issues.  It has been said that Ashton Kutcher cheated on Demi Moore and has kids with another women (People Magazine: Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher-Are They Splitting?).  Whether that is true or not, there is still a possibility.  It is very possible that some of those marital problems could come from the large age difference between them.  It is said that women tend to mature quicker than men do, that is why some women date older men, but why would an older woman date a younger man?  Maybe it is for the thrill of having a ‘hot younger guy’ or maybe it’s for the sex, who knows.  Women and men who are far apart in age and are in a relationship have many things to consider that would affect their relationship, and something to consider would be their biological differences.  

Biological differences is something that cannot be improved or helped, it’s just how your body works.  As people grow older, their biological needs and drives change.  When there is a significant difference in age, the needs and drives of one person do not match up with the other person in the relationship.  As J D Murrah  states, “As one party is wanting to experience life, the other may be wanting to take it slower as they deal with declining abilities. In the early days of a relationship, the differences may be stimulating and exciting, yet as the relationship matures, those same differences may lead to conflicts and fights” (Hubpages: Does Age Matter in Relationships?).  

Luisa Dillner, a writer from The Guardian (a newspaper in the United Kingdom), gave a quick overview about relationships and the age gaps and why it matters.  She stated that, “There is no evidence that anything other than wide age differences increase the likelihood of splitting up – more than 10 years, and the younger partner is more likely to be unhappy than in more standard relationships”.  Also, usually relationships with a wider age gap (more than 10 years) are more common among the poor, less-educated couples, and in certain ethnic communities.  People who are in a relationship with a significant age difference are more likely to live with each other outside of marriage (The Guardian: Relationships-Why the Age Difference Matters).  With these facts and opinions, it makes you think about whether age really does matter in a relationship or not.

Some people tend to lean in the opposite direction and say, “No, age doesn’t matter in a relationship”; they think that it isn’t right that an age difference could be a barrier to keep them apart.  Many women don’t care about age, they just want a man who is serious about a relationship and has the same goals and desires as they do.  Now, what about this little four-letter word called ‘love’.  Webster’s dictionary defines love as “a strong affection for another person, especially of the opposite sex”, (Webster Dictionary: Love). You can’t help who you fall in love with and if you meet someone who is older than you and you fall in love, then age shouldn’t matter.  Many people who are in a relationship with an older significant other, say that age is just a number and that a relationship is all about the qualities in the person and how the two people come together as one (Keen: Does Age Difference Matter in Love?). 

Does the value of love overpower the age difference in a relationship?  People who would answer yes to this question focus more on the love they have for each other, rather than looking at the future and wondering if health and the natural aging process will affect the quality for their lives together.  The article in NINEMSN: Does age difference matter in a relationship, summarizes their point of view on whether age matters in a relationship or not; “Making an age gap relationship work is like any other successful relationship — it depends on strong communication skills, dedication, honesty and a lot of effort” (NINEMSN: Does age matter in a relationship?).

As I mentioned before, my boyfriend and I are currently five and a half years apart and before researching this topic, I would have said ‘No, age doesn’t matter in a relationship at all’.  After reading other opinions and articles on whether age really does matter, I have slightly changed my outlook on this topic.  I think that it all depends on the couple.  All couples have problems at some point in their marriage, and it doesn’t matter if they’re 20 or two years apart, everyone has an issue at some point.  I think that if a woman and a man are in love and there is an age difference between them, then who cares?  Who are we to judge and criticize people for falling in love with someone who is older?  When people ask me how old my boyfriend is and I say 25, some people look at me with a snarled face like they’re disapproving of our relationship just because he is five and a half years older than I am.  Now, I think that there is a type of limit of how big an age gap in a relationship is.  As mentioned before, Hugh Hefner is 85 and just broke up with his ‘then’ fiancé of 25.  I think that an age gap of 60 years is a little extensive and I wonder what she ever saw in an 85 year old man (other than money).  I think that big of an age gap could cause serious issues and I don’t think it would be healthy for either party in the relationship.  I think love should be the reason two people are in a relationship and I think the value of love should overpower the age difference (unless the age difference is very big, like 60 years).  I don’t think people should be together if there is an extremely large age gap, like Hefner and his ex-fiancé- I think that is just asking for trouble.  In my opinion, it all just depends on the two people and what their circumstances are; after all, we can’t help who we fall in love with.

 In conclusion, the question of whether age matters in a relationship raises some very strong view points from many different people.  There are many people who think age does matter in a relationship because of the biological differences or just because people with an age gap are in two different stages in their lives.  On the contrary, other people think that age shouldn’t matter in a relationship-that age is just a number that should be looked past when two people are in love.  They expressed their opinions that love should be the main factor in a relationship, along with communication, effort, and honesty.  Those are the qualities every relationship should have and, in my opinion, it all just depends on the situation and the people in the relationship.   

 

Sources:

Green, Ariadne. “Does Age Difference Matter in Love?” KEEN: Your Personal Advisor. 1 July 2011. Web. 11 Oct. 2011. <http://www.keen.com/documents/works/articles/love/does-age-difference-matter-in-love.asp&gt;.

“Does Age Difference Matter in a Relationship?” Ninemsn Health: Health and Wellbeing. MSN and Bing, 25 July 2005. Web. 11 Oct. 2011. <http://health.ninemsn.com.au/sex/relationships/691136/mind-the-gap&gt;.

Wright, Cindy. “Age Gap- Should It Matter?” Marriage Missons. Jan. 2010. Web. 11 Oct. 2011. <http://www.marriagemissions.com/age-gap-should-it-matter/&gt;.

 Murrah, J. D. “Does Age Matter in Relationships?” J D Murrah on HubPages. Sept. 2010. Web. 11 Oct. 2011. <http://jdmurrah.hubpages.com/hub/Does-Age-Matter-in-Relationships&gt;.

Dillner, Luisa. “Relationships: Why the Age Difference Matters.”  The Guardian. 11 Sept. 2009. Web. 11 Oct. 2011. <http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2009/sep/12/age-difference-dr-luisa-dillner&gt;.

Schwartz, Alison. “Hugh Hefner, Crystal Harris Break Up Before Their Wedding : People.com.” People Magazine. 15 June 2011. Web. 11 Oct. 2011. <http://www.people.com/people/article/0,,20502778,00.html>.

Orloff, Brian. “Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher Marriage Troubles? : People.com.” People Magazine. 28 Sept. 2011. Web. 11 Oct. 2011. <http://www.people.com/people/article/0,,20532466,00.html>.

Morehead, Phillip D. “Love.” The New American Webster Dictionary. 3rd ed. New York: Penguin Group, 1995. Pg 406. Print.

October 13, 2011 at 12:49 pm | Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a comment

Does Age Matter in a Relationship?

 

 A couple of months ago, Hugh Hefner, 85, and his ex-finance Crystal Harris, 25, announced that their engagement was off (People Magazine: Hugh and Crystal Harris split).  Most of America probably could have predicted this.  A 25 year old wanting to marry an 85 year old?  How does that happen? When I saw that article in a People magazine, I couldn’t help but wonder if their 60 year difference in age had anything to do with the split.  Some people think that age really does matter in a relationship, and others beg to differ.  I know many couples who are eight or ten years apart, but how far is too far?        Before researching this topic, I automatically thought ‘No, age doesn’t matter in a relationship at all’.  My opinion was just from my personal experience because my boyfriend is 25 and I am 19 (turning 20 soon).  About a year and a half ago when we started dating, my parents were very uneasy about the idea of their youngest daughter dating someone who is five and a half years older, but as time went on, they got over it, and now they absolutely love him.  But what if he was 10 or 15 years older than I am? Would we get stares walking down the street together because people disagree with our relationship because of our age?  Some people really don’t care about the age difference in a relationship, but others think that age absolutely matters in a relationship.

J D Murrah, a marriage counselor and writer states his opinion on whether age matters in a relationship, “The question of whether or not age is a matter of concern in relationships has often been debated by family and friends. The simple answer to the question is ‘yes” (Hubpages: Does Age Matter in Relationships?).  Most commonly, you see men dating younger women, but in some situations, you see women dating older men.  Take Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher as an example.  Demi Moore is 15 years older than Ashton Kutcher and some may think she’s just being a ‘gold digger’ or that she is trying to find her ‘youthfulness’ in Ashton because he is so much younger than her (The Guardian:Relationships-Why the Age Difference Matters).  If you read People magazine, or any of the ‘Hollywood update’ magazines, you should know that recently Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher may be having some marital issues.  It has been said that Ashton Kutcher cheated on Demi Moore and has kids with another women (People Magazine: Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher-Are They Splitting?).  Whether that is true or not, there is still a chance of possibility.  It is very possible that some of those marital problems could come from the large age difference between them.  It is said that women tend to mature quicker than men do, that is why some women date older men, but why would an older woman date a younger man?  Maybe it is for the thrill of having a ‘hot younger guy’ or maybe it’s for the sex, who knows.  Women and men who are far apart in age and are in a relationship have many things to consider that would affect their relationship, and something to consider would be their biological differences.       Biological differences is something that cannot be improved or helped, it’s just how your body works.  As people grow older, their biological needs and drives change and when there is a significant difference in age, the needs and drives of one person do not match up with the other person in the relationship.  As J D Murrah  states, “As one party is wanting to experience life, the other may be wanting to take it slower as they deal with declining abilities. In the early days of a relationship, the differences may be stimulating and exciting, yet as the relationship matures, those same differences may lead to conflicts and fights” (Hubpages: Does Age Matter in Relationships?).  

Luisa Dillner, a writer from The Guardian (a newspaper in the United Kingdom), gave a quick overview about relationships and the age gaps and why it matters.  She stated that, “There is no evidence that anything other than wide age differences increase the likelihood of splitting up – more than 10 years, and the younger partner is more likely to be unhappy than in more standard relationships”.  Also, usually relationships with a wider age gap (more than 10 years) are more common among the poor, less-educated couples, and in certain ethnic communities.  People who are in a relationship with a significant age difference are more likely to live with each other outside of marriage (The Guardian: Relationships-Why the Age Difference Matters).  With these facts and opinions, it makes you think about whether age really does matter in a relationship or not.

Some people tend to lean in the opposite direction and say, “No, age doesn’t matter in a relationship”, and they think that it isn’t right that an age difference could be a barrier to keep them apart.  Many women don’t care about age, they just want a man who is serious about a relationship and has the same goals and desires.  Now, what about this little four-letter word called ‘love’.  Webster’s dictionary defines love as “a strong affection for another person, especially of the opposite sex”, (Webster Dictionary: Love). You can’t help who you fall in love with and if you meet someone who is older than you and you fall in love, then age shouldn’t matter.  Many people who are in a relationship with an older significant other, say that age is just a number and that a relationship is all about the qualities in the person and how the two people come together as one (Keen: Does Age Difference Matter in Love?). 

Does the value of love overpower the age difference in a relationship?  People who would answer yes to this question focus more on the love they have for each other, rather than looking at the future and wondering what if health and the natural aging process will affect the quality for their lives together.  The article in NINEMSN: Does age difference matter in a relationship, summarizes their point of view on whether age matters in a relationship or not; “Making an age gap relationship work is like any other successful relationship — it depends on strong communication skills, dedication, honesty and a lot of effort” (NINEMSN: Does age matter in a relationship?).

As I mentioned before, my boyfriend and I are currently five and a half years apart and before researching this topic, I would have said ‘No, age doesn’t matter in a relationship at all’.  After reading other opinions and articles on whether age really does matter, I have slightly changed my outlook on this topic.  I think that it all depends on the couple.  All couples have problems at some point in their marriage, and it doesn’t matter if they’re 20 or two years apart, everyone has an issue at some point.  I think that if a woman and a man are in love and there is an age difference between them, who cares?  Who are we to judge and criticize people for falling in love with someone who is older?  When people ask me how old my boyfriend is and I say 25, some people look at me with a snarled face like they’re disapproving of our relationship just because he is five and a half years older than I am.  Now, I think that there is a type of limit of how big an age gap in a relationship is.  As mentioned before, Hugh Hefner is 85 and just broke up with his ‘then’ fiancé of 25.  I think that an age gap of 60 years is a little extensive and I wonder what she ever saw in an 85 year old man (other than money).  I think that that big of an age gap could cause serious issues and I don’t think it would be healthy for either party in the relationship.  I think love should be the reason two people are in a relationship and I think the value of love should overpower the age difference (unless the age difference is very big, like 60 years) in a relationship.  I don’t think people should be together if there is an extremely large age gap, like Hefner and his ex-fiancé- I think that is just asking for trouble.  I also think it all just depends on the couple; after all, we can’t help who we fall in love with.

 

 

In conclusion, the question of whether age matters in a relationship raises some very strong view points from many different people.  There are many people who think age does matter in a relationship because of the biological differences or just because people with an age gap are in two different stages in their lives.  On the contrary, other people think that age shouldn’t matter in a relationship-that age is just a number and should be looked past when two people are in love.  They expressed their opinions that love should be the main factor in a relationship, along with communication, effort, and honesty.  Those are the qualities every relationship have and, in my opinion, it all just depends on the couple. 

 

Sources:

Green, Ariadne. “Does Age Difference Matter in Love?” KEEN: Your Personal Advisor. 1 July 2011. Web. 11 Oct. 2011. <http://www.keen.com/documents/works/articles/love/does-age-difference-matter-in-love.asp&gt;.

“Does Age Difference Matter in a Relationship?” Ninemsn Health: Health and Wellbeing. MSN and Bing, 25 July 2005. Web. 11 Oct. 2011. <http://health.ninemsn.com.au/sex/relationships/691136/mind-the-gap&gt;.

Wright, Cindy. “Age Gap- Should It Matter?” Marriage Missons. Jan. 2010. Web. 11 Oct. 2011. <http://www.marriagemissions.com/age-gap-should-it-matter/&gt;.

 

 

Murrah, J. D. “Does Age Matter in Relationships?” J D Murrah on HubPages. Sept. 2010. Web. 11 Oct. 2011. <http://jdmurrah.hubpages.com/hub/Does-Age-Matter-in-Relationships&gt;.

Dillner, Luisa. “Relationships: Why the Age Difference Matters.”  The Guardian. 11 Sept. 2009. Web. 11 Oct. 2011. <http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2009/sep/12/age-difference-dr-luisa-dillner&gt;.

Schwartz, Alison. “Hugh Hefner, Crystal Harris Break Up Before Their Wedding : People.com.” People Magazine. 15 June 2011. Web. 11 Oct. 2011. <http://www.people.com/people/article/0,,20502778,00.html>.

Orloff, Brian. “Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher Marriage Troubles? : People.com.” People Magazine. 28 Sept. 2011. Web. 11 Oct. 2011. <http://www.people.com/people/article/0,,20532466,00.html>.

Morehead, Phillip D. “Love.” The New American Webster Dictionary. 3rd ed. New York: Penguin Group, 1995. Pg 406. Print.

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October 11, 2011 at 2:41 pm | Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a comment

Does Age Matter in a Relationship?

               

                A couple of months ago, Hugh Hefner, 85, and his ex-finance Crystal Harris, 25, announced that their engagement was off (People Magazine: Hugh and Crystal Harris split).  Most of America probably could have predicted this.  A 25 year old wanting to marry an 85 year old?  How does that happen? When I saw that article in a People magazine, I couldn’t help but wonder if their 60 year difference in age had anything to do with the split.  Some people think that age really does matter in a relationship, and others beg to differ.  I know many couples who are eight or ten years apart, but how far is too far? 

                Before researching this topic, I automatically thought ‘No, age doesn’t matter in a relationship at all’.  My opinion was just from my personal experience because my boyfriend is 25 and I am 19 (turning 20 soon).  About a year and a half ago when we started dating, my parents were very uneasy about the idea of their youngest daughter dating someone who is five and a half years older, but as time went on, they got over it, and now they absolutely love him.  But what if he was 10 or 15 years older than I am? Would we get stares walking down the street together because people disagree with our relationship because of our age?  Some people really don’t care about the age difference in a relationship, but others think that age absolutely matters in a relationship.

 

http://www.people.com/people/article/0,,20502778,00.html

Evaluation of 6 sources

October 6, 2011 at 11:38 pm | Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a comment

No

http://health.ninemsn.com.au/sex/relationships/691136/mind-the-gap

  • This is a reliable source because it is a commercial news site.  MSN is a pretty reliable internet site.  Although this site is not very professional, I would still trust it with providing information about my topic. It is not enough to base a whole paper on though.

http://www.keen.com/documents/works/articles/love/does-age-difference-matter-in-love.asp

  • KEEN.com is a resource for personal advice.  This is not a website I would trust with factual information.  It just gives opinions and advice on certain topics.  This may be an okay source just to look at different people’s opinions on if age matters in a relationship, but it would not be a good reference overall.  Although, the woman who wrote the article I was looking at is a Master’s student, soul mate expert, and an author.  She may be a reliable source for her opinions, but not a fantastic reference.

http://www.notjustthekitchen.com/family-relationships/does-age-matter/

  • This website is an advice column for “baby boomer women”.  This website gives advice to women about many different topics.  The ‘About us’ page has about four sentences explain how this website provides these women with a different perspective on everyday issues.  This website does not look very professional at all and would not be a good source.

Yes

http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2009/sep/12/age-difference-dr-luisa-dillner

  • The Guardian is a newspaper for an area in London, England.  I think this source would be a good source because it is an actual newspaper and has real editors and writers that write their articles.  It has a lot of variety in the website and looks very professional.

http://lifestyle.msn.com/relationships/article.aspx?cp-documentid=20703148

  • This MSN website (sponsored by Bing) would be somewhat reliable.  The article for my topic was written by two authors and at the end of the article, the authors state what activities they like to do and how they are individually dating.  Although MSN is a somewhat reliable source, I probably would not trust the people who wrote my article.

http://www.helium.com/items/937591-does-age-matter-in-a-relationship

  • Helium.com is a website where their authors are also their editors and they read and rate every article on the site.  Anyone can write an article on the site, but then it is overviewed but the Helium team and they decided is it is good enough to get published on their site.  This may not be the best source, but I think it is reliable and trustworthy for my topic.
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